Handshakes & first impressions
Even thought I might date less in cold weather, it doesn’t mean I’m meeting fewer people this time of year. Because holiday season = holiday parties. That means wiping the mothballs off that shamefully tight cocktail dress and crashing any holiday party I can.
When I’m meeting new people, I usually opt for the easy kosher answer — a handshake. Mainly because it works in all situations and equally well for boys and girls. So it surprises me how many people can not give a decent shake to save their life. Like your appearance, it’s a form of non-verbal communication that speaks volumes about your personality. A limp wrist leads me to believe that other appendages suffer from the same malady. In other words, keep a stiff upper lip and strong firm hand — they’ll be none the wiser. On the other hand, a crushingly tough hand conveys pure hostility and not in the cool confident alpha sorta way.
And if you’re really good you can punctuate the handshake with some yummy eye-contact…while asking me to dance.
I support the movement to stop the whole practice. I don’t carry my sword with me anymore so I don’t need to show the person I’m meeting that I come without weapon.
Can we bring back the bow? Nothing says romance like a noble bow.
so while you might not carry a sword with you, i on the other hand will be wielding weapons of mass destruction. because love is a battlefield, and i aim to be over-prepared rather than under. but i agree, bows are romantic. that’s why it’s cupid’s weapon of choice.
I don’t like the handshake for when I am enthralled with or otherwise attracted to a woman. This piece of bread’s hands get clammy, and there’s nothing less attractive than a sweaty, clammy handshake. I’d like to keep my nervousness to myself, thank you very much.
sorry alex, i didn’t mean handshakes forever as a meet & greet hello. but when i’m introduced to people for the very first time, hugs and kisses seem overly friendly bordering on: “that chick is insane.” with any yummy bread that i’ve had at least a 5 minute conversation with, i opt to hug it out. if i’m on european soil, then kisses on the cheek are also appropriate.
omg, bad handshakes are soooo a pet peeve of mine!