Racial profiling
My brother used to lament that Asian men were the plankton of the dating totem pole. He was constantly griping about how his slimmer physique = less masculine = perceived gayness. At 5’8″, he’s average height but would never be considered tall by American standards and social norms dictate that the boy should be taller than the girl. He blamed it on the portrayal of Asians by mass media. According to his theory, I fared marginally better because Asian girls = exotic = sex fiend nymphomaniac.
There’s a term for bread obsessed with Asian girls and after moving back to the Bay Area, I run into this type of boy a lot. What’s even creepier is when I’m given a passing grade by his parents based on my ethnicity! Because somehow my chinky eyes = I’ll take care of you forever, even when we’re old and gray. That type of comment should be reserved for an individual’s character & personality; never race or background.
Racial profiling exists — especially in the dating world. I understand that people have preferences, but limiting yourself to ONE type of bread means that you’re closing yourself off to the other possibilities of carb-laden goodness. And bread is always much more inviting dressed up in butter / cheese / nutella — think of the possibilities! Yum.
Dear Ms. Jones, you by far have the most un-chinkiest set of eyes i’ve seen on an asian woman. So open those peepers loud and proud!
But that topic aside, I do agree that there does tend to be alot of profiling and stereotypes for any ethnicity, especially asians… and it’s quite sad… I’ve always been under the impression women gravitate towards the tall, dark and handsome characters. Unfortunately the majority of asian men are categorized as short, pale and geeky. But at least I can safely say that i’m quite the opposite of pale, lol!
I think it’s up to our future generation to change this linear view of ethnic characteristics and show that color has absolutely no influence on how good or bad (to be fair), one can be in the sack.
That’s right, here’s to one big multiracial orgy!
Though I’m aware and not happy that racial profiling still exists, I hadn’t heard references similar to the ones mentioned in the first paragraph being related to asians other than exotic.
Whereas exotic may have been used and still is used as referring to someone as a beautiful person from another country, I can see that it can also be considered racial profiling and something I hadn’t thought of till you mentioned it here.
Having lived in the South for some time before moving back here, I’ve seen profiling from both sides. It’ll probably take a couple generations for most people to stop prejudging people on ethnic looks and characterstics, but don’t think it’ll ever completely go away. For myself, I’l open to all possibilities of carb-laden goodness.
Cheers to the multiracial orgy!
With such delicious varieties as Dutch Crunch, French Batton, Russian Rye, and German Pumpernickle, why would anyone limit their bread consumption to just one type? It varies in quality not from type to type, but from loaf to loaf, deli to deli, bakery to bakery, maybe.
And don’t get me started on perogies…
Your hyperlinks were interesting and eye-opening, Viv. I didn’t grow up in the Bay Area, don’t get out as much as I used to, and haven’t noticed profiling as much as if I had or others do. Though someone might have to hit me in the face sometimes for me to notice. Aside from that, the media article made some good points as well. Thanks for the insight.
ahhh sunsurfer, i would never lead any of my wonderful readers astray with bad links to terrible articles. even IF i ever link to a horrid piece, it’s probably because it was an entertaining well-written piece, or….maybe the author’s the best piece of bread i’ve ever eaten.
I don’t think I ever mentioned “perceived gayness”. It was closer to “more attractive to the gay male population than the straight female population”, which is problematic if you’re a straight asian male. And you made no mention of my second, related gripe about asian females who refused to date asian males.
geez, big brother. i can’t mention all you gripes on this subject…otherwise i’d need to start a whole separate blog about it! are you saying that you were hit on more frequently by the gay male population than the straight female population? i want stories!!!